Comments on: Queen Latifah Was Sexually Abused As A Child

By: kmbrliee

kmbrliee — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 06:52:27 +0000

i was sexually abused by my father from age 8-16. i just told my friends and family about it on friday Nov. 13th, 2009. it feels great to get it off of my shoulders but we’re dealing with court and stuff all the time now. i’ve been pretty messed up because of it. i’m glad there’s so many people that can understand what i’ve been through, but nobody deserves this. i’m only 17 years old and if it wasn’t for what my dad did, i would still be a virgin. he has taken so much from me. it sucks because that’s someone you should be able to trust..

By: Ms. Behave

Ms. Behave — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 13:58:41 +0000

@ 2020VIZN Says: More like a damn 100 dollar, lol.

Truer words have never been spoken. ^5

By: 2020VIZN

2020VIZN — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 00:08:52 +0000

Damn, I just dont know anymore. It seems like there are so many people who have been molested and taken advantage of.

*************Actual Occurance****************
Sweet-Tea hit a nail dead on the head because I had an 22 year old chick that lived in my neighborhood take advantage of me when I was 13. The only part that freaked me out about the whole thing is that she made me go downtown, and to a 13 y/o black male thats nasty, but hell it didnt mess me up, shit I have even acquired a taste for it………who am I foolin, it realy an insatiable apetite that I have for it now. But about a week later she got one of her friends and they caught me coming fron the basketball court and tried to face rape me, but I hit them with a shake move and got up out a there.

I dont know how to judge some of these things because it sometimes makes some people better in life. But I do honestly think that some people use this excuse to account for questional behavior and I think as a society we play a dangerous game by feeding into unproven molestation cases because pretty soon it will be an excuse for murder and everyother malproductive behavior under the sun.

But I think that male and females have diffrent feelings due the nature of the role we feel we play in sex. A healthy and generaly sane female tends carry the felling and belief that they are GIVING something precious when enguaging in sex, so therefor they feel live something very special has been taken from them when they are molested or raped. On the other hand the male is programed to feel like he is being given something when he gets some cooch, even if the the female begs takes or borrows the “D” we still feel like we should be grateful for the cooch. So in most cases males dont feel taken advantage of if a FEMALE forces you into sexual activity, we still appreciate it.
Just my 2 pennies.

By: Smurfette

Smurfette — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 22:12:34 +0000

That’s fucked up she went through that! But things like that shape who you are today. That type of experience will definately make you not trust others. You always feel like ppl are out to get u. Then u gain weight or become withdrawn to keep others from noticing you. Even though she went through all that, she needs to get counseling. Its never to late for some healing. Keep yo head up Queen and realize, that’s the past, and you can’t keep givin the molester power by lettin them affect your future.

By: Gay

Gay — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:58:29 +0000

I’m not trying to pass judgement on QL but why now? Seriously I think she’s using this as a way to ease her coming out process and that’s sad. I read the interview and I didn’t know where the questioning went for her to bring up the sexual abuse and again why now? She said that she had told her parents about it after her brother passed and that’s been what over 15 years ago. Sorry but it’s no different than Donny McClurkin (sp) speaking about his sexual abuse being the reason he was queer. Ok Donny…Ok QL.

By: jolie

jolie — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:38:57 +0000

Why would you hire a male babysitter to look after your daughter??? Not to say that a female babysitter is not capable of doing the same, but it’s a greater chance with a male babysitter.

By: Marathon_Man

Marathon_Man — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 18:31:30 +0000

Jazzy I think DT was just trying to lighten up the mood in this post. I think it’s messed up for people to have to endure things like this. Hope Queen gets some counseling.

By: sweet_tea

sweet_tea — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 18:22:25 +0000

@ Jazzy- most males don’t see it as abuse. My ex lost his virginity @ 11 to a 16 year old babysitter. To me, he was abused. To him, he was the coolest kid on the block. It’s different with everyone.

Although it’s a sad situation in any case, I think the degree of abuse matters & everything shouldn’t be lumped into an excuse for adult shortcomings. Some adults just lack interpersonal skills and the results are failed relationships. Plenty of people who haven’t been abused have those problems too. On the flip side, if you’ve suffered abuse to the point that you feel it’s affected your adult life, you ought to seek treatment. Everything can’t be solved on your own. Cynthia, you have a strong husband & I wish you the best!

By: Atlanta

Atlanta — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 18:09:24 +0000

So sad.

By: ucanb2

ucanb2 — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 18:07:14 +0000

Sorry to hear it, no-one deserves that!