Comments on: Domestic Violence Should Never Be Tolerated! http://mediaoutrage.com/2009/11/20/domestic-violence-should-never-be-tolerated/ Media Outrage Celebrity Gossip, and everything that is going on in the Media! Fri, 19 Mar 2010 05:34:25 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: ALLISWELL5 http://mediaoutrage.com/2009/11/20/domestic-violence-should-never-be-tolerated/#comment-82458 ALLISWELL5 Sat, 21 Nov 2009 17:35:28 +0000 http://mediaoutrage.com/?p=54431#comment-82458 Sad case....it seems like the abuse is getting worst. She needs to either leave, report the abuse to the authorities(if truly legitimate), or try to get the brother some professional help/counseling(that's if she insists on staying with the dude)...Sometimes it's phsycological problems(maybe dude saw his Father abusing his Mother when he was a youth)? My older brother and I witnessed our biological Father beat on my Mama when I was young...As a result my older brother turned out to be violent and abusive towards others(physically and mentally). Also my Father was a heavy alcohol abuser, which my brother also inherited....prison has also plagued his life. If you don't do it for yourself, then you must do it for your children's sake. Kids are very observant, you don't want your children to get the impression that hitting their mommy is okay or normal....meaning a son might grow up to be an abuser, and a daughter might grow up and allow men to abuse them. On another sad note, one of my friends in college used to beat on his girlfriend with closed fists.....She eventually reported the abuse to the authorities....he is currently serving an 8 year sentence with no prior criminal record. Sad case….it seems like the abuse is getting worst. She needs to either leave, report the abuse to the authorities(if truly legitimate), or try to get the brother some professional help/counseling(that’s if she insists on staying with the dude)…Sometimes it’s phsycological problems(maybe dude saw his Father abusing his Mother when he was a youth)? My older brother and I witnessed our biological Father beat on my Mama when I was young…As a result my older brother turned out to be violent and abusive towards others(physically and mentally). Also my Father was a heavy alcohol abuser, which my brother also inherited….prison has also plagued his life.

If you don’t do it for yourself, then you must do it for your children’s sake. Kids are very observant, you don’t want your children to get the impression that hitting their mommy is okay or normal….meaning a son might grow up to be an abuser, and a daughter might grow up and allow men to abuse them.

On another sad note, one of my friends in college used to beat on his girlfriend with closed fists…..She eventually reported the abuse to the authorities….he is currently serving an 8 year sentence with no prior criminal record.

]]> By: Smurfette http://mediaoutrage.com/2009/11/20/domestic-violence-should-never-be-tolerated/#comment-82453 Smurfette Sat, 21 Nov 2009 17:27:55 +0000 http://mediaoutrage.com/?p=54431#comment-82453 I feel for this woman as I have never been in this situation. I feel that maybe she aint leaving cuz this is her "normal." What I mean is, to all of us this is abnormal behavior. But she may have grown up in an abusive home, therefore she is used to men beating women. So this is kinda okay and normal to her. As a friend what you can do is advise her to call the police and get out. That's it. If she refuses, cut her off. Stop callin her. Stop going over there. Leave her be. She will get out when she is ready. The abuse will stop one way or the other. Sadly it may stop the day he kills her, but it will stop. For the woman who is being beat on, you ALWAYS have somewhere to go. Even if you have no family. This is why battered women shelters exist. And the shelter helps u get on yo feet. Goin as far as helpin u secure an apt and they even buy u furniture. Even if you have to live on the street its better than being beat on. Good luck to you and yours. -Smurf I feel for this woman as I have never been in this situation. I feel that maybe she aint leaving cuz this is her “normal.”
What I mean is, to all of us this is abnormal behavior. But she may have grown up in an abusive home, therefore she is used to men beating women. So this is kinda okay and normal to her.

As a friend what you can do is advise her to call the police and get out. That’s it. If she refuses, cut her off. Stop callin her. Stop going over there. Leave her be. She will get out when she is ready. The abuse will stop one way or the other. Sadly it may stop the day he kills her, but it will stop.

For the woman who is being beat on, you ALWAYS have somewhere to go. Even if you have no family. This is why battered women shelters exist. And the shelter helps u get on yo feet. Goin as far as helpin u secure an apt and they even buy u furniture. Even if you have to live on the street its better than being beat on. Good luck to you and yours.

-Smurf

]]> By: danibabygurl http://mediaoutrage.com/2009/11/20/domestic-violence-should-never-be-tolerated/#comment-82394 danibabygurl Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:40:27 +0000 http://mediaoutrage.com/?p=54431#comment-82394 Depending on the state and local laws, she may need to be willing to talk with police. Things can be done for the children, because if she doesn't want to be helped, that should not be taken out on the kids. Trust me when I say they will be emotionally and mentally affected by it for life. You can take the information to the childrens school or youth and family services. If you contact the school, they will talk to the child with only family services there so their parents can't coerce them to changing the story. Then they will contact the parents and start an investigation. The parents making up an excuse will not negate the information given. From there if youth and family services finds the children in an abusive home, the police will be contacted and nothing the mother can do will stop that. The main concern is the children. She is grown enough to decide what she wants to do. Unfortunately her decisions may be fatal for her in the long run. But definitely contact the kids' school, the family's church (if any) or youth and family services, so they can get the children out of that home. Depending on the state and local laws, she may need to be willing to talk with police. Things can be done for the children, because if she doesn’t want to be helped, that should not be taken out on the kids. Trust me when I say they will be emotionally and mentally affected by it for life. You can take the information to the childrens school or youth and family services. If you contact the school, they will talk to the child with only family services there so their parents can’t coerce them to changing the story. Then they will contact the parents and start an investigation. The parents making up an excuse will not negate the information given. From there if youth and family services finds the children in an abusive home, the police will be contacted and nothing the mother can do will stop that. The main concern is the children. She is grown enough to decide what she wants to do. Unfortunately her decisions may be fatal for her in the long run.

But definitely contact the kids’ school, the family’s church (if any) or youth and family services, so they can get the children out of that home.

]]> By: MissTX85 http://mediaoutrage.com/2009/11/20/domestic-violence-should-never-be-tolerated/#comment-82393 MissTX85 Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:39:57 +0000 http://mediaoutrage.com/?p=54431#comment-82393 Get her family and/or other friends involved as scare tactics. If that doesn't help, let the police handle it. She doesn't have to do or say anything. The evidence will do it for her. Not only that, tell her you'll call CPS on her. If she really loves her children, she'll think twice about staying with that punk. Get her family and/or other friends involved as scare tactics. If that doesn’t help, let the police handle it. She doesn’t have to do or say anything. The evidence will do it for her. Not only that, tell her you’ll call CPS on her. If she really loves her children, she’ll think twice about staying with that punk.

]]> By: Rafiq http://mediaoutrage.com/2009/11/20/domestic-violence-should-never-be-tolerated/#comment-82375 Rafiq Fri, 20 Nov 2009 21:34:28 +0000 http://mediaoutrage.com/?p=54431#comment-82375 Hmmmmm Lowridaz you are WAYYYYYYY TO SMART AND MUCH TO BEAUTIFUL TO EVEN THINK ABOUT LETTING THAT KIND OF SHYT HAPPEN TO YOU.And Ms. Brynnrock my man up top Nupe said a mouth full. If a man get in a rage your chances get very slim of kickin his azz.Not saying it can't be done,but why make him go there.SHUT THA PHUCK UP ,DON'T TRY AND GRAB HIM OR THE CAR KEYS WHEN HE'S TRYING TO LEAVE.DON'T RUN OUTSIDE SCREAMMING AT HIM CALLING HIM ALL KINDS OF HOE AZZ NOGGAHS SO EVERYBODY CAN HEAR YOU.If the situation is that bad,when he leave pack what ever you can and go.There are women shelters avaliable 24/7,365 for abused women if she has nowhere to go.So Ms.Brynnrock please don't go there,we don't wanna be READING about you throwin HOT GREASE ON A MUTHAPHUCKA.You know they called me and told me you'd do that SHYT.PEACE Hmmmmm Lowridaz you are WAYYYYYYY TO SMART AND MUCH TO BEAUTIFUL TO EVEN THINK ABOUT LETTING THAT KIND OF SHYT HAPPEN TO YOU.And Ms. Brynnrock my man up top Nupe said a mouth full. If a man get in a rage your chances get very slim of kickin his azz.Not saying it can’t be done,but why make him go there.SHUT THA PHUCK UP ,DON’T TRY AND GRAB HIM OR THE CAR KEYS WHEN HE’S TRYING TO LEAVE.DON’T RUN OUTSIDE SCREAMMING AT HIM CALLING HIM ALL KINDS OF HOE AZZ NOGGAHS SO EVERYBODY CAN HEAR YOU.If the situation is that bad,when he leave pack what ever you can and go.There are women shelters avaliable 24/7,365 for abused women if she has nowhere to go.So Ms.Brynnrock please don’t go there,we don’t wanna be READING about you throwin HOT GREASE ON A MUTHAPHUCKA.You know they called me and told me you’d do that SHYT.PEACE

]]> By: Yvonne http://mediaoutrage.com/2009/11/20/domestic-violence-should-never-be-tolerated/#comment-82372 Yvonne Fri, 20 Nov 2009 21:27:49 +0000 http://mediaoutrage.com/?p=54431#comment-82372 This is so freaking sad...you said "Every time I get ready to intervene she gets angry at me and stops taking my calls and tells me to mind my own damn business."...yea, that's the way it is with some battered women. From that statement the only thing I can say is.....be her friend when she needs you because on some DEEP WARPED LEVEL your friend is taking this for love. Your friend has been in this sadistic relationship for 10 years and she's not about to leave. What you might do is...the next time she comes to your house after a beat down call the police or inform her family members, if they don't already know. This has to be stopped or you will wind up going to her funeral but you friend has got to want it to stop. Until she does that there is not too much you can do. Sad, but it is what it is. This is so freaking sad…you said “Every time I get ready to intervene she gets angry at me and stops taking my calls and tells me to mind my own damn business.”…yea, that’s the way it is with some battered women.

From that statement the only thing I can say is…..be her friend when she needs you because on some DEEP WARPED LEVEL your friend is taking this for love. Your friend has been in this sadistic relationship for 10 years and she’s not about to leave.

What you might do is…the next time she comes to your house after a beat down call the police or inform her family members, if they don’t already know.

This has to be stopped or you will wind up going to her funeral but you friend has got to want it to stop. Until she does that there is not too much you can do. Sad, but it is what it is.

]]> By: brynnrock http://mediaoutrage.com/2009/11/20/domestic-violence-should-never-be-tolerated/#comment-82301 brynnrock Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:38:09 +0000 http://mediaoutrage.com/?p=54431#comment-82301 The kids are really suffering, she knows right from wrong. Fuck love. I wish a MF would try to whoop my ass. Fuck with a real bitch and you will get a real ass whoopin!! Damn shame woman need to wake up and think about their children more. If there is a will there is a way. Bullshit on excuses, put them to the side and take action for your children. Grown ass woman allowing some man to beat on her. Okay, I can understand 1,2,3 times fighting but when you get into an abusive situation, time to wake up, smell the coffee bc it is burnt honey and there aint no going back! The kids are really suffering, she knows right from wrong. Fuck love. I wish a MF would try to whoop my ass. Fuck with a real bitch and you will get a real ass whoopin!! Damn shame woman need to wake up and think about their children more. If there is a will there is a way. Bullshit on excuses, put them to the side and take action for your children. Grown ass woman allowing some man to beat on her. Okay, I can understand 1,2,3 times fighting but when you get into an abusive situation, time to wake up, smell the coffee bc it is burnt honey and there aint no going back!

]]> By: lowridaz http://mediaoutrage.com/2009/11/20/domestic-violence-should-never-be-tolerated/#comment-82298 lowridaz Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:30:38 +0000 http://mediaoutrage.com/?p=54431#comment-82298 I AGREE Rafiq, if anyone dont give up info when police come, then nothign you can do, sometime women do that, when cops come they change it up, but as I said it in god's hand now, she moved away with him, what happens then? she up and left. I also know woman that have been in situations like that and left with nothing, not a penny or change of clothes, must of been scary for them, going to the unknown, but they did, and are doing just fine. nothing is impossible, with determination. but i have never been in any situation like that, so i dont know what each individual is feeling at the moment, i can only go by examples of folks that i know who have been in that and either removed themselves from that situation or stayed in and continued being abused, or died! I AGREE Rafiq, if anyone dont give up info when police come, then nothign you can do, sometime women do that, when cops come they change it up, but as I said it in god’s hand now, she moved away with him, what happens then? she up and left. I also know woman that have been in situations like that and left with nothing, not a penny or change of clothes, must of been scary for them, going to the unknown, but they did, and are doing just fine. nothing is impossible, with determination. but i have never been in any situation like that, so i dont know what each individual is feeling at the moment, i can only go by examples of folks that i know who have been in that and either removed themselves from that situation or stayed in and continued being abused, or died!

]]> By: Rafiq http://mediaoutrage.com/2009/11/20/domestic-violence-should-never-be-tolerated/#comment-82290 Rafiq Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:13:22 +0000 http://mediaoutrage.com/?p=54431#comment-82290 Hmmmmmmmmm Lowridaz sweet heart no WOMAN should have to beg her friend to call the cops on some hoe azz noggah for beating her azz.And I really didn't peep what state she's from but in TX,she don't have to say shyt.In MO,she don't don't have to say shyt. In those two states she don't even have to call the police,the next door neighbor can call and his azz is going to jail. Once they see her and she give his name the STATE WILL PICK UP THE CHARGE. Now if she don't give his name then SHE IS A STUPID WOMAN, A.K.A STUPID BITCH. WHO CAN NOT BE SAVED. PEACE Hmmmmmmmmm Lowridaz sweet heart no WOMAN should have to beg her friend to call the cops on some hoe azz noggah for beating her azz.And I really didn’t peep what state she’s from but in TX,she don’t have to say shyt.In MO,she don’t don’t have to say shyt. In those two states she don’t even have to call the police,the next door neighbor can call and his azz is going to jail. Once they see her and she give his name the STATE WILL PICK UP THE CHARGE. Now if she don’t give his name then SHE IS A STUPID WOMAN, A.K.A STUPID BITCH. WHO CAN NOT BE SAVED. PEACE

]]> By: Yeah I Said It http://mediaoutrage.com/2009/11/20/domestic-violence-should-never-be-tolerated/#comment-82289 Yeah I Said It Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:12:24 +0000 http://mediaoutrage.com/?p=54431#comment-82289 I don't think she is stupid, just frighten. if she does not work where will she go? this writer did not say if she works, if she has family, if she has anywhere to go. It's easy for us to say get her out, but once she is out what happens next? She will need some strong support and a willing heart to see her through getting back on her feet alone. Calling the police is not enough. She needs someone to stand for her while she gets herself together. This makes me so sad, and I bet she feels helpless. . I don’t think she is stupid, just frighten. if she does not work where will she go? this writer did not say if she works, if she has family, if she has anywhere to go. It’s easy for us to say get her out, but once she is out what happens next? She will need some strong support and a willing heart to see her through getting back on her feet alone.

Calling the police is not enough. She needs someone to stand for her while she gets herself together. This makes me so sad, and I bet she feels helpless.
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